Biologists call this the pair-bond. We’ve institutionalized it as marriage. The bad news is our pair-bond is designed to last for as long as it takes our offspring to reach some level of independence.
Genes aren’t designed to make us happy. They design us to make more copies of themselves. (p.16)
In all social species with pair-bonds, females are attracted to evidence that males display a chance for
power in the community. (p.27)
Female macaque monkeys are attracted to power, but even more so to signs of potential power. (p.28)
But remember, a woman needs a Pleistocene provider for fifteen years at least, so it doesn’t do her much good to marry the 70- year-old chief of the tribe. The Anna Nicole Smith strategy could be a problem if the old chief kicks off while she’s breast feeding and a new chief inherits his status. Women must predict future chiefs, so women are less attracted to power than ambition for future power. Girls in fairy tales hung their hopes not on the king but the prince. Remember guys, the car you drive is not as sexy as how driven you are. (p.30)
Money didn’t even exist a million years ago. The real Pleistocene currency by which a hunter was ranked was not cash but attention. (p.42)
Humans compete less for territory than for rank. Territory and possessions are only symbols of rank. The attention of the tribe is a kind of psychic territory where we harvest the resources we cooperative apes need to survive. He who controls the attention is high status and sexually attractive. ( p.43)