Activity No 1. was about fear of rejection
- think about a strategy that you use to avoid rejection
- sort of the beliefs: -persecutor, -rescuer, -victim
Activity No 2. was about low self esteem
- to counter this, prepare a list of 10 qualities you like about yourself. Do this quickly, without agonising.
- check these items against the beliefs you identified in Activity No 1. E.g. intelligent might reinforce a Persecutor belief, caring might fit with Rescuer, sensitive might reflect the Victim position.
- use a anchor for each qualities
Activity No 3. visualize a situation in which you are scared of being rejected.
- what could normally pre-occupy you in that situation?
- what would you trust about yourself in that situation?
To add more of NLP slant you might like to repeat the seeing, hearing, feeling and anchoring process for the qualities you trust about yourself.
You can also reward the question as follows: what will you trust about yourself in situations like that in the future
Another option is to pick one of the unhelpful reactions and think of a situation in which such a response would be helpful.
